About Me

Hello! My name is Hong and I’m the creator of Ambition Forward.

This site is about overcoming yourself and creating a life you love by chasing and achieving your dreams and goals. I love talking about all things personal development, goal-setting, productivity, money, motivation, financial freedom, mindset, and pretty much anything that involves improving our well-being to enjoy our life. This is the place to come for the tools to succeed. Visit when you need inspiration, when you are feeling down or stuck, or if you’re curious and want to learn more.

I created this space as a way to gather and organize all my findings. I found myself reading a lot of books, watching videos, and listening to podcasts to figure out what was “wrong” with me. I struggled a lot with finding things to fulfill me and was always questioning the direction my life was heading. However, every time I came across valuable information that I felt helped change my life, I wanted to share it. So join me on this journey as I continue to learn and improve every day.

A little about me:

I grew up with working immigrant parents, which meant I had to know how to take care of myself, oftentimes it meant taking care of them too. So the pressure to do well and be successful was instilled in me at a very young age.

I always followed the rules and did what I was supposed to do because I understood my parent’s sacrifices and never wanted to inconvenience or disappoint them.

I never knew what I wanted to do with my life, my school didn’t prepare me and neither did my parents, they always assumed I had everything figured out and under control. That meant that asking them for help or expressing any kind of sadness, unhappiness, or discomfort was out of the question. Everything about my life was to shield and protect them. So as long as they thought I was doing well, I convinced myself I was fine.

That was until I had my first job and was finally on my own. I didn’t live with my parents anymore so I didn’t have a front to put up, I didn’t have to act happy, I was able to think for myself now…and I didn’t know how.

I didn’t know what I liked, I didn’t have any hobbies or interests, I didn’t know who I was. I was a robot going to work and coming home to either scroll on my phone or watch TV until the next day started all over again. That was my routine for years.

I decided to start looking for change because I was terrified I’d wake up one day and 10 years passed and I’m still exactly where I was.

After work was now spent figuring out how to break the cycle. I was either researching other career paths, looking for side hustles, looking for hobbies, or listening to speakers talk about happiness. I dabbled a lot from side hustle to side hustle, hobby to hobby, always falling for shiny object syndrome. I would start something to see if anything worked, and then immediately quit and move on to the next thing. I never actually applied myself or stayed consistent to see anything through. I was impatient, unreasonable, didn’t have a clue what I was doing, and no plan whatsoever.

I wanted so badly to find happiness and joy in my life again. I wanted to care and look forward to something but had no idea how to find it. I had no drive and no ambition and I didn’t know how to fix it.

I was confused, angry, and frustrated because I felt like I had done everything right up until that point, I followed the rules, went to school, and got a job…now what?

I kept asking if this was it. Was this the “American Dream” that everyone desired? Is this the goal, did I do it? I was so ashamed to be unhappy because I knew how lucky I was, but I felt so empty.

After many, many, many… dark nights and dark days and a few therapy sessions. I did find the strength to snap out of it. I knew nothing was going to change unless I made the change. I had a lot of people in my life counting on me and wanting to see me succeed, and I wanted me to succeed too.

Here are a few questions and revelations that helped me:

  • If my life stayed exactly the same 5 years or even 10 years from now, would I be happy?
  • Time was my biggest fear, every New Year, birthday, or anniversary that passed I felt more and more depressed by how little or no progress I made on anything. Those were celebration days that I didn’t want to dread anymore.
  • What was I going to be proud of when I’m old? Would my 80-year-old self be proud of me or disappointed?
  • What was my life for? How did I enjoy it?
  • I didn’t want to be the victim anymore, I wanted to take back control of my life
  • I didn’t want to feel like life was always out to get me because the truth is, life will happen, it’s how you choose to react.

Some of my favorite lines and quotes that stuck with me:

  • Happiness is not a destination, it is a state of mind
  • Everything is hard, you have to choose your hard
  • Action conquers fear
  • You don’t rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your system
  • Success only happens outside your comfort zone

I can go on and on but these were a few of my favorites.

There is a bright side to all this, I promise.

I don’t claim that I have it all figured out, because no one does, but I know I’m on a better path now with a stronger mindset. I put in the effort every day to create a life I’m in love with, instead of one I try to escape.

I’m setting goals, making commitments to myself, and staying consistent. I try to stay as true to my words as possible because I’m learning who I am. My mind is now my best friend and not my enemy.

I’m still a work in progress, always will be, and I’m here to encourage you to do the same.

From everything I have gathered, there really is no secret. You’re going to hear the same thing over and over again if you keep trying to find the answer. It’s YOUR life, and it requires reflection, decide how you really want to live your life, and then take action and stay consistent. Don’t overthink or overcomplicate it.

I’ve learned you have to start really small, you can’t expect everything to change in one day. You start with finding little things in your life that make you happy and work your way up. Then you write everything down and picture what a perfect day or life looks like to you, and now you set your goals and create a plan to get there. What you choose to put your time and energy in is what you choose to make important, so put your Ambition Forward.