9 Step Blueprint to Train Your Brain for Long Term Success

Do you have big goals and ambitions you want to achieve but then suddenly feel betrayed by your brain for sabotaging you? There is no worse feeling than knowing the biggest hurdle to overcoming your fears to achieve your dreams is yourself.

If this is you then you are not alone. This is a common problem since only about 3% of people achieve their goals, and that leaves the rest of the 97% upset, frustrated, and disappointed. The good news is that there is a solution.

Training the brain requires awareness and understanding of the reason behind the doubt and uncertainty it creates in the mind. After that, it’s all about practice, repetition, and consistency to break out of the old cycles.

Practice, Repetition and Consistency to Train your brain

By the end of the article, you will know precisely why it feels like the brain doesn’t want you to succeed and what you can do about it to retrain it.

Why Does My Brain Not Want Me To Succeed?

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Our brain is there to protect us and it wants to keep us safe. Anything new and unknown puts us in a fearful survival mode and alerts the threat-response system to keep us out of danger.

You’ll feel inspired at the moment, but when the actual time comes, your brain will do everything it can to convince you not to. That’s why you never “feel like it”. It doesn’t want the new experience or the uncomfortableness of doing something out of routine. It wants you to lay comfortably on the couch instead because it’s safe.

Take exercise as an example. Many people set the goal to exercise, but when it comes time, their brain is telling them not to. Exercise requires changing your routine and then putting your body through a lot of stress. Your brain is trying to protect you and prevent the stress.

9 Strategies To Train Your Brain For Success

Awareness is the first step in training your brain, you have to be mindful when the thoughts of doubt set in. These steps all have a common theme, and that is putting you in control. You now need to override your brain and ignore all the negativity and fill it with positive thoughts and emotions. Here’s how to do that:

1. Separate Your Mind From Your Body

There is a famous quote, “What the mind believes, the body can achieve”, and while it’s true to a certain extent, a lot of times our mind doesn’t quite believe it yet, that’s why it’s trying to stop us, but we have to separate it from our body and do it anyways. The quote should be reversed, “What the body can achieve, the mind believes”, because when we do the action despite what our mind is telling us, it will eventually accept the new action and not perceive it as dangerous.

2. Be an Action Taker

The only way to reach your goal is to do it and get started. Your words, ideas, and your goals mean nothing if there is no action plan. Your brain is going to try very hard to stop you and convince you that you are not good enough, but you have to silence your brain and do the action anyway.

The brain reacts to behavior. The more we lay on the couch or procrastinate, the more the brain sees it as a good thing so it will try its hardest to keep us there. We have to learn that we are in control, so we do the action anyway, regardless of how the brain feels, and then over time, it will get easier because the brain no longer sees it as a threat.

The more you dwell on something the less likely you are going to do it, so stop listening to the brain, don’t think, and just do.

3. Create Healthy Habits

Habits are your way of life, you can tell everything about a person by observing all their habits.

Establish routines and daily schedules for yourself and stick to them. If you want to start exercising, do it at the same time every day. If you want to start meditating, do it at the same time every day. Use habit trackers and don’t miss more than two days in a row. Consistency is your way to success.

4. Stay Focused

What you choose to put your time and energy into is what you choose to make important. Only focus on one goal at a time and put forward your best effort to make it happen.

Get rid of distractions, limit your screen time, and don’t pay attention to outside noise or opinions. Put your blinders on, keep your head down, and focus on yourself and what you want to achieve.

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5. Affirmations and Visualization

How we talk about ourselves and the things we repeat in our heads over and over will become our reality. 95 (or as much as 99%) of your life comes from the programming in your subconscious mind. What we think is truly what we become.

The good news is that you can retrain and rewire this. Start using it to your advantage and only say positive things in your head about yourself, reframe the negative thoughts.

Make a habit of writing daily affirmations, or record yourself saying these affirmations and play them every day. Repeat them to yourself multiple times a day like a mantra until you believe it. Visualize and feel that you are already a success. Imagine yourself already living the life you want.

These positive visions help release the happy chemicals in our brains and keep us in a cheerful mood. The better mood we are in, the better we can go about the day.

This is not an easy switch, and it will take time and require repetition and consistency. If you catch yourself saying something negative, tell yourself you didn’t mean it and say something good instead. It’s a learning process so be kind to yourself and you will succeed.

6. Meditate


Everyone who embarks on these self-improvement journeys will have meditation on the list, and for good reason because this study states brief, daily meditation enhances attention, memory, mood, and emotional regulation. It also found that short daily meditation can have similar behavioral effects as longer duration and higher-intensity meditation practices.

This is good news if you are a beginner, you can start small at 15 minutes and still get the benefits of the longer and higher-intensity practices. Meditation can be uncomfortable at first because it forces you to sit in silence and wither your thoughts away. Remember, your brain will try very hard to convince you not to do it, take control, and do it anyways until it becomes a habit.

7. Practice Gratitude

This quote has stuck with me for a long time, “If you’re not happy poor, you’re not going to be happy rich”. Happiness is not a destination and it doesn’t come from external things, happiness is from within. It’s what you make of the situation and how you feel about it. The best way to appreciate everything you already have is by expressing gratitude, every. single. day.

8. Always Celebrate

Every win no matter how big or small needs to be celebrated. It makes the process more enjoyable and it releases the happy chemicals in our brain. We crave and look forward to rewards so they can help us keep going. Rewards also remind us where we started, your journey is more meaningful than achieving the goal itself, so don’t forget to enjoy and celebrate along the way.

9. Keep Learning

Have you ever heard, “Use it or lose it”? To keep our minds sharp, we must always be learning. Which means constantly challenging our brains and stepping out of our comfort zone. Learn how to play an instrument, read books, learn a new language, find a new hobby, whatever it may be, just do it and never stop.

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Hong Singer

I'm the creator of Ambition Forward. I keep things simple by focusing on the goal and being consistent in my actions to get the results I want, and I'm here to help you do the same. I encourage you to look for the things that bring you joy and go for it!

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